these are my feet in shoes that really do fit
Last month I ordered a cute pair of shoes that I believed would fast-forward me into a realm of fashion far from the one I am in currently. I imagined not only wearing these shoes to various places, but the outfits I would buy to go with them and who I would be when I wore them. They were the right shoes and I couldn't wait to receive them in the mail and get them on my feet.
The first day I wore them I ended up with five blisters on my feet before noon. Shortly after, I ditched them and went barefoot the rest of the day at work! My poor feet were swollen, rubbed raw, and ached from my toes all the way to my heels. I kept thinking that if these were the right shoes, then there must be something wrong with me. Forget about the cute outfits, the hip events, and the elevated confidence they were to bring to my life. The shoes and all that they represented got put into a Goodwill box before sunset.
A few days later and with a bit more perspective, I realized that I had been picking out shoes for a younger me with a different life. There is no right or wrong with shoes - they either fit comfortably or they don't. Now I am approaching footwear shopping with a whole different mindset, believing that I must be able to function in my life with the shoes on my feet. "Cute" has a lot more to do with ease of movement, feeling good, and a smile on my face than it does with an article of clothing. Don't you agree?